Dating before marriage essay
” Does that sentiment even come close to what you feel when you think back on those memories? More likely, you could picture yourself kissing that person and only that person for the rest of your life, if it hadn’t all gone to hell (assuming you broke up).
The same people who say “you’re going to want to experience sex with lots of people” are also the ones who will say that “kissing can be as intimate as sex,” so this kissing example holds with their logic, IMHO.
Do you remember the first bicycle you had when you were a kid?
Do you remember how well you learned to ride that thing?
You would do wheelies, hit the breaks and skid sideways to a stop, jump off ramps — all kinds of stuff.
That first bike probably got more attention, focused learning, and experimentation out of you than any other bike thereafter. I’ve never given much weight to this objection, but I’ve heard it more than once.
Non-virgins offer this up as an objection because they’ve been in a situation where they sucked and the other person didn’t (due to having more sexual experience)…and they felt inadequate and less desirable for it.
They argue that you’re going to have this deep, nagging pull towards sexual variety that will corrode your current relationship, unless you exorcise that demon earlier in life through lots of pre-marital sexual experiences. Here’s an example: Let’s say you’ve been married for ten years. It will become a familiar situation: Some friend/acquaintance, biased by their own decisions, will try to poke holes in your decision to wait, and you’ll either hear them out, smile and nod, then dismiss the conversation, or you’ll decide to engage them and argue your case.The best of these people will argue as your friend, because in their own way they’re genuinely trying look out for you and they feel that they have legitimate, intellectually-sound objections to waiting till marriage that directly impact your future happiness.” Or “What about that chapter of the bible where there’s all that sex happening?Doesn’t that totally contradict the whole abstinence thing?!